Life beyond the Darkness
Posted on November 13, 2009
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By Amilya  Antonetti
When asked about how or where I found the where-with-all to birth Soapworks and take on Corporate America to bring in a “new way of thinking” to the consumer market, I can’t help but giggle. People see the success now that it’s happened, but I always need to remind folks that every moment in the fight to save my son’s life was dark, confusing, and downright scary. Many nights were spent full of tears, negative self-talk, and an overwhelming feeling of being completely alone.
In these times of economic darkness we must hold tight to the idea that the universe has bigger and greater plans for us and our lives than we can even imagine. It’s through the dark, the key word being through, that we must travel in order to step into the abundance of light. This sounds a bit God fearing, but I can point to every one of my darkest hours and now be in awe at what amazing gifts those times have brought into my life.
These tough times are not easy. Being knee-deep in darkness, disoriented, and questioning if you’re going deeper into the dark or heading toward the light can be petrifying. I know the feeling. I’ve been there so often I now feel like I can be a tour guide for dark destinations. Each time I’m called to travel through difficult situations, I remind myself that each step “through” will bring me closer to the great gifts that come as I grow and learn from these experiences. The gifts in my life, thus far have been incredible, I could never have imagined, planned for or even had the insight to dream of.
The fight to keep my son alive brought with it the amazing journey of birthing a company, changing an industry, and learning skills and talents I had no idea I had. The tragic death of my mother brought me to a place of such clarity within me, my wants and needs, and what my voice is in this world. I can’t imagine what life would be like without these gifts. In her death she gave me a voice that is louder, clearer, and more aligned with who I am than I could ever have known without her.
The failure of my marriage that ended in divorce lead me to new discoveries about myself. I’ve met people that I could never have imagined I would have had the pleasure of meeting let alone now having them play an integral part in my life. Without my divorce my daughter would never have been born, the relationship I have with my son far exceeds any expression in simple words and that loss also brought me to a relationship I would have bet my last dollar was not possible, let alone existed. Today, I can’t remember my life without it.
After years of traveling in and out of both the dark and the light, I feel that my ability to embrace the dark times, then allows me to thrive with abundance in the light. When traveling through the dark with an openness to learn, I can then carry the wisdom with me into the brightness of joy.
The keys to getting through the darkness are:
Keep moving – Although you may feel like you have no idea where you are going, trust me and keep moving no matter how awful it might feel this is the key to finding the light. I like to think of it this way; I would rather have chosen poorly and found my way to a dead end, than to choose nothing and die in the same place having never really lived at all.
Keep the right pair of glasses on – In dark times you can see yourself as a “victim” with no control over your situation, or a “victor†who has choices, on a journey to greatness. Never forget that your greatest weakness is also your greatest strength, the power comes in how you play your cards. Never let anyone see you as a “victim,” you relinquish all your power and nothing is more heartbreaking than when the one seeing you in that position is yourself. Stand in your own light and shine.
Don’t be afraid to “go with the flow” – When times get dark our instinct is to immediately fight. Often times, the right move is to “go with the flow” and trust that you are okay. Let the universe reveal to you things you can’t see, information you don’t know, and people who are meant to come into your life but have not yet arrived. You don’t know what you don’t know. Sometimes you need to let go and let life reveal a whole new set of opportunities.
Last and most importantly, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! – We are all more powerful together than any of us will ever be on our own. Reach out! Look up and allow others to show you the love and beauty that exists all around us. With the world today I am never surprised how easy it is to tweet, Facebook, post a blog entry or email and watch the wonders of all of you come back in so many ways.
Each tear we shed, every step we take, and every win we achieve allows us to move further, reach higher, and grow stronger for the greater good of us all.
From the Editor, Ragini
Well, the above piece is from my good friend Amilya who has been doing great work in a lot of fields in the US and has very recently agreed to share her experiences with us here on my site http://www.indiantvtoday.com. Hope you all make good use of the same and benefit from her golden words. Regards to all. You can access her previous entry here http://www.indiantvtoday.com/independence/2009/08/20/. She is all of an award Winning Entrepreneur,Green Pioneer Bestselling Author, Media Personality, Advocate & Mom.
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