What makes a relationship tick?
Posted on July 17, 2009
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One of the most admired couple in Hollywood
This article is based on a very stereo type subject and might sound very boring and bookish to few. But the hard fact remains that  relationships  are one of the most  important part of our lives which we tend to underestimate. For some all the love and affection in a relationship is limited to initial years of marriage. More and more modern people  these days are working hard to crop and flourish their relationship as they are intellegent enough to understand the importance of a happy relationship.
Any ways, here are some tips in short to make your relationship tick for ever.
It happens with most of us that we neglect the important aspects of our life and give importance to less important ones. In the long run we land up as loosers in term of relationship as when we  take our relationship  for  granted.
Altghough most of us don’t damage our relationship conciously, it’s  just that we underestimate it’s importance and take it absolutely as our right without giving any thing in return.
In case there is anyone who can give people the secret to a stable relationships, he or she would be rich pretty fast given the problems that people experience. However, you should not wait for some kind of magic wand to establish your relationship. There are a number of things you can do on your own in order to have a good relationship.
These things are fairly simple and there is really no secret involved. It is just that people tend to take them for granted. Let’s take a look at some of them. Have you ever thought why more and more people all over the world are having multiple problems like depression, low self esteem, suicidal tendencies, drinking problem, various health ailments and mental sickness.
Going steady in bollywood where there counterparts have switched 2-4 relationships
The answer is only one stress and lonely ness. People are getting more and more ambitious compared to earlier generations (no harm being ambitious). Unfortunately this leads to stress and more stress as most of us don’t know where to with draw. On top of that we don’t give 100% to our commited relationship to make things more complicated. In case we communicate well and don’t run away or criticize our spouse when he/she needs us most we will be saving this earth from various man made mental problems.All we need to have patience and trust in our partners.
Javed Akhtar and his equally talented actor wife Shabana Azmi have been voted the best couple in Bollywood in an online poll
The answer is simple just work hard on it atleast 10% of what effort you give in your office job. Just  hold on for a while from your busy life and give some quality time to your spouse. Believe me or mark my words it will make you a better worker, a happy person and a commited father, son and so on. All you need is to do is take some prescribed dose of happiness.
Mentioned as following—-
Love and care
Although you would think that this is obvious, you will be surprised by how neglectful people usually are. Loving your spouse is very good. However, it should not stop after a couple of years . It is equally important to show your partner that you love him or her. If you love some one showing it is equally important in life otherwise it will lead to serious consequences.
Respect and understanding
Second most important formula for a happy relationship is having a mutual respect and understanding. If you think your spouse is some kind of a joke then you are headed for disaster. Respect in terms of other’s motives,action, and hobbies and must trust each other’s actionj instead of questions and doubts. Believe me it helps and heals at the same time.
Kindness and chivalry
As odd as it may seem, people tend to be kinder to strangers than the ones they are close to. Be kind to your spouse if you want a good relationship. Some how till date i have fail to understand people show all the chivalry,courtesy, mannerism and kindness to strangers,aquintance and even friends but never for a wife and vice versa. How can we forget such basics in life again here we take our spouse for granted. It’s must to show that you care and small things bother you. Believe me it does magic to your partner and result a happy relation and a happy family.
Thoughtfulness
In everything that you do, your spouse should take a prominent place in your thoughts. All it takes are little gestures to show your thoughtfulness. Again friends, this dose is a must like a tie in your wardrobe or oil in your vehicle. See we give priority to our gadgets and take good care of them. Why?
Honesty
The phrase ‘honesty is the best policy’ has turned in a mere cliché and many people take it for granted in their relationships. Be transparent and you won’t have anything to lie about.
Such simple and common sense things are actually the secrets to stable relationships. You should not find it difficult to express them. The important thing is to study your spouse in order to determine the most effective ways through which you can show these gestures and you will be happier for it. You will realize that simple actions will show a combination of the secrets to stable relationships, as they often go hand in hand.
Last but not the least is some dose of romance and physical expression of love, something like hugs,pat on the back and so on. Sounds funny and you must be laughing as if it’s a joke your relationship is in a deep trouble man.
Think about it buddy it’s not that bad to show love and take some effort for the most important person in your life.
After all you also take your boss out for dinner.Why not your spouse but remember with the feelings.
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